After a very tragic break up..

1. Find a support network.
Find someone or something you can lean on as soon as possible. A best friend, favorite family member or even a pet will do. When your emotions are on high you need someone who can provide rational, objective, comforting support.

2. Find a favorite something.
When you're down and you have no support network around, you can turn to favorite movies, songs, or places to keep you from slipping into depression. Make sure it's something happy that won't remind you of your ex.

3. Find a positive anger release.
So you're angry. Now is a good time to indulge in your favorite hobby: sports, singing, writing, walking, etc. Whatever your release, make sure it's positive and not a depressant like alcohol or drugs. You'll get over your hurt, but make sure you don't drag a bad habit along with it.

4. Remove yourself.
When you break up with someone you may be curious as to what your ex is up to, about their personal life, and you may try to squeeze it out of friends and acquaintances in frenzy. That won't help; you need time and space for yourself. Don't isolate yourself, but don't surround yourself with reminders of the past.

5. Move on.
This sounds easier than it actually is, but in order to get over a bad break up it's essential you try and move on with your life. It takes time to completely get over someone, but the more you focus on your own life and develop your own friendship base the easier it will be to get over him. You don't have to erase them from your life completely, but don't become obsessed. You may get back together, but if you don't, you have to make sure your mind can move with the pace of life.

6. Get back to your life
After you feel like you've taken enough time to gather your thoughts and emotions, don't be afraid to get back into the scene- dating, going out or whatever that may be. It's normal to feel the need for "alone time" right after a break up. Don't isolate yourself too long; get out when you're ready. It doesn't mean devaluing your previous relationship, but it's a way to distract yourself.

7. Keep your options open.
So you and your ex had some great times - maybe the best - but you have to leave room for others to fill in the gap potentially. There can be new great times. You may compare past lovers to new people in your life or build up a wall. And caution is a good thing sometimes, but this can be unhealthy.

No one can replace your ex because they were a kind of special that can't just be erased (or else why would you feel this way?). But give new prospects a chance; they may be even better.